That guy who started this thread is a troll.

But, as we do believe what people say, and take it seriously, you Lazyei8ght, managed to turn it into a great thread. As far as belching and flatulence, these occur in either sex. I've never had the inclination to learn to belch the alphabet. That seems to be man-only territory. Belching and flatulence being encouraged among males, by their peers. This also includes the hideous action of spitting.

As far as I know, males do not produce excessive amounts of phlegm that needs to be expelled on a regular basis. Women spitting is quite rare from my own observations. And I have never seen spitting contests among women. Nor have I seen any woman try to create a "hanging loogy" (sp?) on a horizontal surface above one's head.

I had been reading something on home design, and they were pushing bathrooms for each of the people including a couple. So that a couple living together, sleeping in the same bed and room, would have their own bathroom. In some ways that makes sense. He can do whatever it is he does in there and I would never have to deal with it. Likewise, I could have whatever girly stuff spread out without anything getting in the way of anyone else. No one complains about the other messing up their stuff, moving something important, or getting the wrong toothpaste.

But what next, separate bedrooms? That is something suggested too, separate beds or bedrooms. Like if one person snores, sleeps restlessly, has a different schedule than the other. But it begins to sound like room mates, and not like a couple. Couples deal with things, or try to. There's acceptance and compromise and negotiation and relearning to extinguish old habits. To be more of a couple, to minimize conflict. This may include discussion of where to squeeze the joint toothpaste tube or what position the toilet seat must remain in.

I completely agree with what you, lazy, said here: ""differently functional" in the face of a dominant culture that sometimes tries to tell me that I am "broken" or have a "disorder" is a subversive act in itself" That's a double whammy for women, because not only are we faced with the Aspie label, but that we may not buy into the cultural norms of what it means to be a woman.

I did enjoy playing dress up for various jobs. And that is what it was to me. Dress up. It was a creative endeavor, including the hairstyle and the makeup. I loved creating intricate eyeshadow mixes, so that even the ladies at the cosmetics counters would say "How did you do that?" It WAS an artist expression. Art to wear on my face. Not freakish, but certainly not run of the mill average gal stuff.

Maybe like this (not in black though, in plums):
www.associatedcontent.com/artic...g.html

Or this:
www.ehow.com/how_2256431...perfect.html

It was fun. And I enjoyed it. Now, not for me. Neither are the high heels or panty hose or stockings, etc. My lifestyle has changed to be one more natural. Less fussy.

It does get old real fast to be told that *I* am inherently flawed, disordered, broken, unfit, etc, because of the way I am. I've always been this way. Just as I am left-handed. Left-handedness is natural to me. It's not odd, flawed, disordered, broken, or unfit. It's not even weird to me, to be left-handed, because it's what I know. It's ONLY weird to people who are not left-handed.

And of course I see all the right-handed people, products, labels, as being "not right". Because they are backwards for me. They are different, the products don't work the way I need them to work, like scissors. But I'm a minority, and so once again, I get a label from a majority telling me that *I* am the oddity. Even though they look just as odd to me as I look to them.

So, using a label that says "left handed" or "right handed" lets me know which is right for me, which is likely to work. Ditto for Aspie label and NT label. One is more like me, one is more likely to understand. NT describes a cluster of symptoms, just like Aspie does. And yes, NT people do appear to be disordered and not quite as bright, due to their nature of dishonesty. I find dishonesty to be far more "broken" than the pure honesty of Aspies.