What are your sexual turn ons?

topic posted Fri, May 16, 2008 - 2:01 PM by  offlineJenny D
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Ok, aspies, what are some of your sexual turn ons? It is said that Aspies have weird turn ons and from those I have observed, I have to agree. so, what turns you on?
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  • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

    Fri, May 16, 2008 - 2:03 PM
    I'm guessing that's one area where I'm actually reasonably typical -- or atypical for an aspie.
    • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

      Tue, May 20, 2008 - 5:32 PM
      Well... I'm bisexual, so ... nevermind my saying I'm "typical" ... I'm attracted to friendly people who're good conversationalists mostly... physically I prefer men and women who are both somewhat androgynous - not particularly muscular and I prefer no makeup... So ... I guess in retrospect, yes, my turn-ons are different. Actually makeup is a bit of a turn off for me. Though I'm not sure I would call a lack of makeup a "turn on".
  • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

    Fri, May 16, 2008 - 2:08 PM
    what constitutes weird?
    • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

      Fri, May 16, 2008 - 2:14 PM
      Well, weird to me is something that is not found in the vast majority of the population. For example, voyeurism or watching your partner have sex with another is not what most people would do. That may be classed as weird. Please do not assume that "weird" is in any way abnormal. I simply use the word to denote something that only a small minority of people take a part in.
      • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

        Fri, May 16, 2008 - 2:16 PM
        I will start with what turns me on. I get very turned on by role playing (have lots of wigs and stuff) during sex. Now that is not exactly a very typical fetish.
        • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

          Fri, May 16, 2008 - 2:37 PM
          see and I thought that was the most typical fetish because it encompassed so many other ones. For the amount of time I do talking about sex and sexuality you'd think this question would be easier for me.
          • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

            Mon, May 19, 2008 - 10:37 PM
            singing. well.
            Dance.
            she plays a musical instrument?
            interdisciplinary (multiple college majors or, autididactic?)



            thoughtful, deep mind

            intellectual

            open heart chakra

            shen

            bright, clean auras

            halo activity

            empathy

            telepathy

            kundalini above chakra 2
            exotic dreaming open collaboration
            building

            polyamoury
            voyeurism
            exhibitionism

            gentle, soft, relaxed, playful minor explorations of
            bondage, bdsm

            ponyplay

            in that order, generally going on spectrum from my prometheus side towards my pan side
            ie; what turns >ME< on what side of "me" are you asking?
            My angelic side, which i am more in tune with than almost any NT?
            or my devilish side, which i am more in tune with than almost any NT?
            Or my creative side? Which i am more in tune with than almost any NT?
      • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

        Fri, May 16, 2008 - 2:35 PM
        hmm well I think that weird actually does mean abnormal and I'm totally cool with that. I am definitely weird and totally at peace with that, infact I enjoy it really. I wasn't taking offense. it's more that I know that I've done things that objectively I can assume that most people in the world and the united states have not done...with my group of friends I'm rather the least kinky one. So first you take that I am bad at telling what about me is odd, and then you add to it that I am surrounded by wonderful Bay area livin, burning man attending, BDSM practicing, Poly lovin, gender bending people...and I am just completely lost as to what I might be into that might be different from the norm. I have no concept of the norm I think.

        Plus I'm moody...what turns me on when I'm in one mood is not the same thing that turns me on in another mood. This is a good question for me though. I think my turn ons tend to be either sensation, or energy based. Not visual or idea based. I *think* that's different then most people. and more than any*thing* I am turned on by the person and the chemistry with them. Just being in the room with one person makes me hotter than if anyone else did some of my favorite sexual things.
    • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

      Sun, August 17, 2008 - 10:11 PM

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      §t®ngV◊i©e Re: What are your sexual turn ons? Fri, May 16, 2008 - 2:08 PM
      what constitutes weird?

      ..........----

      HA HA LOL,, if I were wyrd compared to others, HOW would I know. EVerybody else are such freaks.

      LOL,


      Gotta love your reply :D

      R.
      ___.
      • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

        Mon, August 18, 2008 - 9:39 AM
        I'm extremely bad at knowing what is normal much less weird...it doesn't help that I have a core belief that everyone is weird and I forget that lots of people try to stop being wierd or hide it so then I'm all confused by their behavior.
  • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

    Tue, May 20, 2008 - 10:40 AM
    Lol!

    Ok, well, lessee.

    I've been a regular participant both online and in person in the San Francisco based BDSM community for close to 20 years. I play regularly. I teach. I've traveled and played in a number of countries. And a full dissertation on what I do there would be beyond the scope of a simple tribe post.

    I'm also into sex magick and tantra and am about to become certified to teach Margot Anand's Skydancing tantra. Essentially, for me, this is self development through sex and interpersonal relationships. I study several forms of magick, including tantra, chaos, shamanism, and I moderate several magick related forums. I'm also intrigued and fascinated by the use of entheogens, ingested sacraments toward the pursuits of many of these things.

    I'm also a formerly certified hypnotherapist, and certified practitioner of NLP, certified master practitioner of NLP, and a certified health practitioner of NLP, all taken primarily to support my above interests.

    I'm practicing polyamory. I take classes and workshops. I attend both sex and bdsm parties and rituals including the occasional swingers party.

    I can, quite literally, install and remove fetishes at will. My primary turn ons are varied, but the ones that are most interesting to talk about are frontiers. In BDSM, it's often called edge play, but amounts to exploration of self, other, community, and the world. For me, most of these things include, but transcend sex.

    I'm sure I must be forgetting some important bits this morning, but that's a start, anyway.
  • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

    Tue, July 8, 2008 - 7:59 PM
    hands
    physically taxing movements
    stretching
    pain
    crack of a whip
    gun shots
    knives
    certain flavors
    male or female energy
    elements as they prush against me mentally
    hunting/being hunted
    dance
    drinking

    I'm sure there are more things that set me off, but since I generally to aroused to tell what set me off I'll stop there.
    • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

      Sun, August 24, 2008 - 8:58 AM
      I have been gettin a little disturbed by my thoughts lately and what turnes me on.

      I saw this show, this guy was into his job, the gal was interested in him but there was
      no 'lfash' then she attended a function, like a class reunion or such with him as a co-attendee, not together that is;
      She was all dolled up, hair to the "9"s, (OH, just remembered the show, it was Jake 2.0)
      anywho, he was wowed by her looks.

      then after watching the show about a week later I saw this gal that was in baggy pants,
      looked like she had thrown her onsombo togetehr from "Buffalo Exchange"
      and her hair was blonde, thick and choppy cropped. All I could think after seeing her
      at a distance is how sexy she was.
      I guess either the "make overs" that the salons are doing are too thick on the makeup
      and I feel that too many woman look more like manikans or street hors, or that
      i am not liking moderation of make.up for some reason.

      HMMM, what else, conversation is good if the conversation is good.
      smells, some scents, I don['t know, I think mostly just women who are quirky and
      break the mold, the standard formatt, who stand out in a understated way (which makes
      sense, Noooat (doing my best Borat).

      Randy
      __*_*_*_*_
      • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

        Sun, August 24, 2008 - 1:08 PM
        I tend to like "girl next door" and "tomboy" a hell of a lot more than major makeup, big hair, or high heels. Most of the traditional "to the nine's" gear looks uncomfortable and ungraceful to me most of the time. Or just plain impractical.

        I was reminded recently, I can actually get pretty turned on just by riding public transit for a while and watching the people in their typical casual clothes.
        • Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

          Sun, August 24, 2008 - 5:20 PM
          There used to be this men's.wear store that ran commercials with really hunky, sweaty, partially shaven guys that were totally hot and then when the camera cut to the same guy all cleaned up I'm wondering where the cute guy went.Men in suits are boring. Men in tuxedos, OTOH, are hot.
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    Re: What are your sexual turn ons?

    Thu, August 28, 2008 - 10:34 PM
    My aspie cyber stalker used to send me personal messages about eating garlic and farting under the bedsheets.

    This was her sexual fantasy for me.

    Is this typical? Do aspies enjoy farting as part of the sexual experience?

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